Pregnancy is a beautiful and challenging time. It’s also a time when us mamas can be particularly vulnerable to worries and fear, especially when preparing for labor. So, is it possible to have a fearless pregnancy?
In short, yes. It is most definitely possible to have a pregnancy free of fear. That is what this site is all about.
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Is It Possible To Have A Fearless Pregnancy?
There’s an ocean-full of reasons why I am passionate about having a pregnancy and birth experience free of fear, and I certainly believe it’s possible to achieve it.
Fear is powerful, and it directly opposes all the good things that are crucial to a healthy birth experience.
Fear is a thief
It can–and will–add stress, deplete energy and intensify pain. There are studies out there that show it, but, more than that, I can personally say I experienced it starkly and it’s true.
Our bodies were created with all of the tools necessary to carry, nurture and birth a baby. Beyond that, our bodies are also equipped to nurture and raise a child.
Those innate instincts are powerful, and they’re absolutely free. You don’t have to do anything special. They’ll just show up.
Those instincts are in us for a reason. The deep senses and feelings we get regarding our babies and our children are a tool, and we should have confidence in that.
Fear will drown out the voice of confidence and cause us to place the responsibility into someone else’s hands.
We become afraid, so we wait for someone to tell us what to do.
We relinquish control and give in to the idea that we don’t know what to do. That is not what we were intended to be as mothers.
We are incredible, amazing, powerful mothers. We have everything it takes. When our instincts are telling us something, we should have the confidence and the freedom to follow.
Fear is not from God
2 Timothy 1:7
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
If we feel the power of fear overtaking us, we need to stop and consider, where is fear coming from? God hasn’t given it to us, so it’s obviously coming from somewhere else.
Where? From outside influences like things we’ve read, seen, or heard from others? From emotions that we’ve allowed to control and live for too long in our minds?
Perhaps even from a darker force that is working against us and our abilities?
There will be times when we’ll be anxious, wondering about things we haven’t yet experienced in our pregnancy. We’ll worry as we wonder and wait.
This is all perfectly normal, and we may even feel a little insecure. But these are emotions that we can work through since they are coming from within us. We can pray about them, learn, and take steps to find comfort and ease.
There is a difference between these emotions and deep fear.
Fear will keep you lying awake at night. It will rob you of the joys of pregnancy and oncoming motherhood. It will strip you of self-awareness and acceptance.
Fear can divide you from those close to you, and it can fight the deep connection you feel to the baby in your belly.
How can we fight fear in our pregnancy?
We can tap into those instincts we were given, and we can remind ourselves daily that we have everything it takes to be and do what we need to be and do.
We can educate ourselves (not too much!), learn, pray, grow, exercise, and find joy in our journey.
As the verse says, God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, of love, of a sound mind. Those three elements will combat fear and replace it with good things.
Tap into that love for your baby. Love will always win. Faith will directly oppose fear. Joy will combat doubt and worry. Finding things that you love and that cause you to smile and feel secure will boost that inner strength.
For me, it was my favorite tea, taking a walk or swimming, and spending time in prayer.
Gratefulness is perhaps that greatest thing you can possess that will bring you joy. It’s hard to feel unhappy, full of worry and doubt when you become truly grateful for the things you have.
Determination will keep fear at bay. Instead of becoming a fighter against the doctor or medical professional, or the people around you, turn that fighter inside of you loose against fear.
You’ll be amazed at what you can do and the difference it will make.
- Determination brings Faith
- Gratefulness brings Joy
- Prayer brings Confidence
- Love brings Peace and Security and Trust
You can do this, mama. You can SO do this.